Best of luck -- because, IMHO, "luck" is the best thing you might have going for you. At the age of 86 (nibbbling on 87, with the previous 86 years gnawing back) i appreciate the Problems you're facing with your dad... and I (with no-one left alive to support me) am searching for an "assisted living" place that might cope with me up through the Neptune Society stage. Winning at least 16 million dollars in the Lottery would help a lot.